Thursday, April 22, 2010

big girls don't cry

i think i finally understand the reasoning behind "big girls don't cry."
Big girls don't cry because they have learned that crying doesn't fix anything. Girls, by the time we're old enough, understand that situations need to be fixed, not cried over. Crying doesn't fix. As we grow older, some of us learn that crying doesn't make you feel better either. Therefore, crying doesn't fix. As babies and toddlers our tears could get us what we want but the older we get the more meaningless our tears become. We end up with a headache and a pale face. And the same problem we began with.
Crying derives sympathy. And i hate sympathy. Give me empathy if you must, but never sympathy. and crying gives sympathy. and that's why big girls don't cry, because they don't want sympathy.
Big girls don't cry because they don't have time to
Big girls don't cry because when there is a situation that calls for crying, it is much better suited to exert energy resolving, rather than tearing up
Big girls don't cry because by the time they're big, they've cried all their tears and they have no more
Big girls don't cry because it's pathetic, weak and senseless
Big girls don't cry because crying is a waste of precious time
Big girls don't cry because they'd much rather laugh.

5 comments:

  1. Funny thing is: big girls DO cry sometimes!

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  2. i admire ur will to make things happen instead of flooding into tears
    but i have to tell you as a friend who loves you that tears are very important
    if you dont want sympathy u gotta have atleast one person you can cry with and that you can trust
    tears detox ur body from the bad energy
    when ur body cant take it its ok to cry sometimes
    sometimes its even unhealthy to cry
    i do think every one is entitled to tears
    big men too, they should have that right when it is a situation where tears relieve so much pain
    every time i cry i feel better
    i know i am a big girl i do what i can but i find refuge in tears
    and you can even say a3outho bellah men 3ainon la tadma3
    ehhehe
    but im all for strength
    i think tears are not a sign of weakness
    u can be strong and u can still shed some water from your eyes
    sofia lauren said something about how beautiful eyes get after they have cried
    i think crying is a blessing
    tears are farrag in our culture
    i love you monzi

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  3. http://www.saching.com/Article/Benefits-of-crying---Why-do-tears-come-when-we-cry---Do-men-cry-/627

    check it out it might change ur mind

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  4. marooned: they do, and their foolish to do so
    tousi: i agree with u. crying relieves you, but it does nothing else, and sometimes you need more than just relief

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