And most of the time, we know the exact outcome. We know why decisions are bad and we still choose to dive in. I've been trying to understand this complex concept and decision making routine but i've almost given up. Why do girls think in the way they do? We do we give the same models different tries?
Einstein (i think) once said that insanity is doing the same thing over and expecting different results. Im pretty sure this implies most people are insane. Lacking in sanity.
To exemplify, a couple of years back i did something that i cursed till very recently. I made a bad decision and i learned a lot from it, a whole lot. We all get scars and burns and they take their time to heal. Going back to the stove metaphor, when the stove burns you, you eventually heal. Then, in my case, you go right ahead and touch a different stove.
This time, i'm taking a moment to think about touching the stove. But i know that the moment will end and i will reach out with my stupid, newly healed hand and touch the damn stove. And within a few months i'll write about why i shouldn't have touched.
I kinda disagree about girls being the only ones "capable of seeing a bad decision in clear vision" and still do it. I personally know a couple of guys who would fit perfectly into this category. Still, it's probably true that girls are more likely to do that than guys, as they are more impulsive when it comes to their emotions.
ReplyDeleteRegardless of the gender, we are all made of several "elements" that affect our decisions and actions. Although the "elements" concept is drawn from philosophy, it's actually quite simple. There are main two factors that may affect your decisions; your emotions and your mind. The mind, in this context, is the logical sound that knows the consequences of your actions tells whether to proceed or not. The emotions are being themselves and just want to be satisfied.
So why do your emotions win against your mind? It's a tricky question. Your mind should have the authority over your emotions, but in a lot of cases this does not happen. Emotions usually tend to be satisfied as soon as possible without any considerations of the future. On the other hand, the mind usually plans to ensure that such state of inner harmony is kept for as long as possible.
With this is mind, you should know why you keep touching the stove. Is it to run away from a current situation, or are you just longing for something that you accept to have it temporarily, even if it means you'll get scarred in the process?
Another interesting point is the other elements that (should) have authority over these two. We deal with these elements all the time, but we rarely acknowledge them, as they happen almost naturally. These are more concerned with what's right and wrong, and the will to choose the "right" thing for you. You might want to consider these when deciding upon something.
thanks for reading and commenting :)
ReplyDeletei really like your insight, you've taken what i was trying to say a step further, especially through the mind/emotion argument
And that was exactly my point: why would your emotions drive you to touch a stove that your mind knows is hot?
I didn't mean to address right and wrong, although related but what's right and what's wrong leads to a whole different set of ideas and, as you say, "elements"
Well, your writings usually reflect on topics that are thought inducing and are worthy to comment on. So, thumbs up to that :)
ReplyDeleteAs I pointed out earlier, there are several explanations as to why you may touch the stove again. Is it a form of escape, replacing one pain with another? Or just wanting something so badly along with a -temporarily- lack of better judgment?
Whatever the case may be, you'll probably find yourself faced with the same dilemma over and over again until you decide to face it. Once you do that, and even if it occurs again, it shouldn't be a problem anymore.
As for the right and wrong, I know you didn't mean to address it. I just wanted to point out to one of the more challenging elements/subjects to tackle. We don't really think about right and wrong everyday, probably because we know these things intuitively which is directly related to our upbringing. The right and wrong part would lead to the mention of an even more challenging element, which is the will to stick to your decisions.
So, here's a question for you, you've mentioned by the end of your post that you'll probably go with the stupid choice and touch the stove only to admit how stupid it was from you months later. If you know you'll be hurt, why not try to find out the root of the mixed feelings and fix it from an objective and unbiased point of view, which would eventually lead to your peace of mind?
i don't have unbiased points of view
ReplyDeletei'd rather skip the psychoanalysis and let you know what happens through new posts
keep reading, i appreciate the audience :)