You can't hurry love

Time after time, music can usually better explain what's on my mind. I don't know if this is because i am not capable of finding words for what i want to say, or because lyricists and musicians are just doing an awfully good job.

Diana Ross sang, "You can't hurry love, you just got to wait, coz love don't come eeeaassy, it's a game of give and take"

Diana is older and wiser so i choose to listen to her. I think she knows what she's talking about, unlike me. no you CAN'T hurry love, you can't force it either, and chasing it will only tire you out. Don't they say that anything you chase runs away? As for forcing it, that just doesn't work now, does it? force only builds resistance or something scientific like that. the juice of my argument though is about hurrying love. Im not going to rattle on and on about Egyptian society pressures, if you read this then you're well aware of that. But at one point it gets frustrating. It's like they're forcing mating on you, not love. I am so sick and tired of "i want you to meet so-and-so" or "hey why aren't you dating so-and-so" or "i think so-and-so would be perfect for you" or even worse "i think so-and-so's son would be perfect for you" or "are you going to this or that event? so-and-so's gonna be there" LAY OFF ALREADY!!!!!

What's even more frustrating is that i have to be polite to the whiners. I'm not just talking about 50 and above year old ladies, its everyone thats pressuring. admit it. you've had pressure from your own close friends too.

back to my point.. people, you CAN'T hurry love!!! im no feminist-slowly-turning-lesbo here, i wouldn't mind at all having some special companionship. but if its not perfect i wont have it. thank you very much. and if you are reading this and thinking "What is perfect? Define perfect" thoughts, then you don't know what perfect is and i can't explain it. perfect is something you feel, its indescribable. and perfect you find, you dont seek. coz if you look for it, you'll let things slip and pass even though you'll know that thats not what you want or what you are comfortable with.

in the meantime, our lives are already full! why dont more people focus on everything else thats going on? like work for example. we are all (my age group) at a critical time in our careers. we are building what we are going to become. who in their right mind would, amidst that, take the time to go meet the so-and-so who later thinks you are very pretty and smart and wants to go out again? bullshit and waste of precious time.

my best friend uses an analogy i love: i'll have salmon and caviar or i'll starve.

even though my above text is full sentences in the negative im really saying a good thing here. WAIT for perfect, dont hurry it. if it doesnt come it doesnt come. life is too pretty and full to chase the empty half of the glass. and perfect IS out there, as long as you believe in it. the moment you lose trust in 'perfect' will be the moment you might as well forsake it.